Anger Management - Do You Still Count To Ten?

Writen by Alan Speaker Jr.

Anger can manifest itself in many ways. Most people know anger because it manifests inself as physical abuse. Striking another in anger is never best. Now that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a time or place for correction . However discipline and anger are never partners in correct parenting.

First of all correction is the deliberate act of recognizing error or mistake and endeavoring to help change the behavior with the wisdom and knowledge that you have but in your opinion the transgressor lacks. In other words a deliberate decision to help, through knowledge and wisdom. Notice the lack of emotion. Emotion is a result of feelings. You have a feeling and your body reacts instinctively with an emotion. No thought is generally required.

Now if you can funnel your emotion into its proper channels then you can begin to study the act and the appropriate action, not reaction. We too often these days react to everything we experience with our five senses. Too much like animals and not enough like intelligent human beings. As humans we need to continue to evolve into more intelligent sensitive beings who care for our fellow man while still cling to our heritage of God and family and country.

Alan Speaker Jr. is a humorist who sometimes takes a view of life that seems askew or askance.

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Houston Alcohol Treatment

Writen by Max Bellamy

Once you are convicted of a Houston DWI offense, you could be handed several forms of punishments. You may be ordered to go in for drug or alcohol treatment, for instance. Looking for a drug or alcohol rehab and treatment in Houston is not an easy task. Choosing the correct rehab treatment is also a confusing task. There is outpatient treatment, inpatient treatment, group therapy, 12-step therapy and so on. It is therefore best left to you to choose a method that you personally feel is best suited to your requirements.

These treatments may include diverse approaches and hospitalization. You may have to adhere to strict schedules on diet, exercise, counseling, sauna, hypnosis, amino acids or even hypnosis. There is no hard and fast rule as to what is a successful treatment method. You can always go by the simple thumb rule that some things will work out for some people. Usually or at least most of times, Houston alcohol treatment methods are tailor made or customized according to an individual patient’s needs. They could vary substantially from case to case.

Generally speaking, for those who don’t have a long history of alcohol addiction, simple outpatient treatment would be enough. Similarly in cases of patients with a long history of addiction, the time period required for treatment may go up to several months. You see, there are no hard and fast rules, here. It all depends on your past medical history.

If you are in Houston, it is better that you know facts about Houston DWI laws, Houston DWI fines, Houston DWI penalties, Houston DWI arrests and Houston DWI help. You can always get comprehensive information from Houston DWI lawyers, who can guide you on matters related to Houston DWI defense. They will be helpful in minimizing your charges.

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Eight Simple Anger Management Tips

Writen by David Leonhardt

“The other night I ate at a real family restaurant. Every table had an argument going.”

One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger. When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows:

• Anger impedes our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness are incompatible.

• Anger sends marriages and other family relationships off-course.

• Anger means lost business, because it destroys relationships.

• Anger also means losing business that you could have won in a more gracious mood.

• Anger leads to increased stress (ironic, since stress often increases anger).

• We make mistakes when we are angry, because anger makes it harder to process information.

People are beginning to wake up to the dangers of anger and the need for anger management programs and strategies. Many people find anger easy to control. Yes, they do get angry. Everybody does. But some people find anger easier to manage than others. More people need to develop anger management skills.

For those who have a tough time controlling their anger, an anger management plan might help. Think of this as your emotional control class, and try these self-help anger management tips:

Ask yourself this question: “Will the object of my anger matter ten years from now?” Chances are, you will see things from a calmer perspective.

Ask yourself: “What is the worst consequence of the object of my anger?” If someone cut in front of you at the book store check-out, you will probably find that three minutes is not such a big deal.

Imagine yourself doing the same thing. Come on, admit that you sometimes cut in front of another driver, too … sometimes by accident. Do you get angry at yourself?

Ask yourself this question: “Did that person do this to me on purpose?” In many cases, you will see that they were just careless or in a rush, and really did not mean you any harm.

Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address the anger directly, but it can minimize the damage you will do while angry.

Try some “new and improved” variations of counting to ten. For instance, try counting to ten with a deep slow breathe in between each number. Deep breathing — from your diaphragm — helps people relax.

Or try pacing your numbers as you count. The old “one-steamboat-two-steamboat, etc.” trick seems kind of lame to me. Steamboats are not the best devices to reduce your steam. How about “One-chocolate-ice-cream-two-chocolate-ice-cream”, or use something else that you find either pleasant or humorous.

Visualize a relaxing experience. Close your eyes, and travel there in your mind. Make it your stress-free oasis.

One thing I do not recommend is “venting” your anger. Sure, a couple swift blows to your pillow might make you feel better (better, at least, than the same blows to the door!), but research shows that “venting” anger only increases it. In fact, speaking or acting with any emotion simply rehearses, practices and builds that emotion.

If these tips do not help at all and you still feel you cannot manage your anger and the related stress, you may need some professional help, either in the form of a therapist specializing in anger management or a coach with a strong background in psychology.

About The Author

David Leonhardt is the Happy Guy (http://TheHappyGuy.com), author of “Climb your Stairway to Heaven: the 9 habits of maximum happiness at http://www.TheHappyGuy.com/happiness-self-help-book.html For more tips on controlling anger, boosting self-esteem, expressing gratitude and reducing stress, pick up a copy of The Get Happy Workbook (http://TheHappyGuy.com/happiness-workbook.html)

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