Anger & Forgiveness

Writen by Nick Arrizza, M.D.

With respect to forgiving others for past hurts done to you my
position on this is as follows:

We are all Divine Beings of Love and from Love cannot originate any kind of hurt whatsoever. Hence forgiveness becomes a moot point. We have unfortunately become unconscious of our true nature and have chosen to believe lies about ourselves, each other and our situation.

The “so-called hurt” that one has stored within must of necessity be accessed and released completely before an individual can become fully aware of who they and the other are i.e. Divine Beings as I said above.

I don’t know if you’ve ever watched the early versions of Star Trek but I will refer to an episode that in some way depicts our situation here in this reality.

In this episode the ship was invaded by an invisible force that caused all ship members to turn against each other. Captain Kirk realized this at some point and had everyone injected with a kind of “laughing gas” that made everybody mellow and unable to feel any feelings of anger towards each other. This made it impossible for this force to feed off of the energy of
the members and hence it had to leave the ship.

All hurt due to trauma and otherwise that is stored in our
minds/bodies/energy fields are like movies that never really happened to us. We however call them part of our life history and hence feel and act out the anger towards others for past “hurts”. Hence the difficulty with forgiveness.

In my view forgiveness is missing the point. That is that we are all caught in a force field of illusion that in no way represents who we are or what is actually going on. This illusion is stored and being held in the collective
consciousness of the planet and is feeding off of the vital life energy of humanity thereby disabling it.

Once this illusion is dismantled (see my many articles on the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) a modality that does just this) one will begin to see all of this clearly.

Unfortunately having said all of this in the end it’s only an experience of MRP that can convey what I am trying to say. Words usually don’t get there because many on this planet are unconsciously programmed at the mind level with limiting beliefs that block like a filter the truth about what is being said.

You may recall another movie here “The Invasion of the Body Snatchers”.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called “Spirituality And Science” (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of “Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation” (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

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Embracing Anger

Writen by Philip McKeon

Yes, we are definitely creatures of habit. We hold onto certain aspects of ourselves without knowing or even understanding why. We were taught sometimes unconsciously to define ourselves. Thus we needed to develop a standardLanguage. Labels often negate and sometimes pull us into a world of isolation. A N G E R! What happens when you put these particular words together? ” I Am Angry!”. Wow! How concrete it becomes.
O.K. I just wanted to spend a few seconds setting up the intellect to allow it to be present for an unfolding of the heart.
F E E L I N G S Designed by nature to guide us In this sometimes backwards environment we have set up Lead from the Left brain..manage with the right brain type of education, that we needed to assume, in order to memorize and attain material possessions and goals of that nature.
We really learned how to abandon our true guidance system. Hey just keep busy! Set some more goals! Keep your head down, a busy person has no time to deal with emotions! They just confuse you and the next thing you know your again feeling something you know can’t be you! Yikes! This must be coming from out there somewhere, my wife, my job, or maybe this darn traffic.

Now let’s just take a look at one particular feeling. ANGER! We know that Anger is a wonderful motivatorit stimulates our adrenaline glands and we go for a ride. Now Anger really was originally designed to cover up a feeling of hopelessness. Of coarse, anger internalized turns into rage, which sometimes escapes our control and visibly appears to others out there!! We think of coarse no one knows we are carrying around anger, because we find so many creative ways to invalidate it, by shifting our attention into our environment. But this is another article in itself.

So let’s take a look at how anger disguises itself. In other words, how do we know it is operating beneath our consciousness on a moment by moment basis? Because we are conditioned in our world to have our feelings in response to something else that is happening to us out there, it is difficult to see the choices leading up to our responses. Of coarse when we were younger Anger allowed us to survive a very suppressed and controlled environment. This brings us to a moment of acceptance. Anger served us! Now let’s take a look inside How do you want to feel? Now in this moment how are you feeling?
This allows us a moment to declare that we are aware we have control of our own creative thought, power, and feeling.

Unplugging Undesired Emotional Neuro pathways.
Let’s go beyond psychological interpretation. Let’s take a moment to observe how you have things hooked up inside of you. The operative principle here is that when you can observe something, it no longer has a hold on you. So here we gosome of us have grown into a larger earth suit, and have been labeled ADULTS, yikes!!! another label. Now you better respond like an adult!
I think you get the message here. Now let’s go in. What is this anxiousness?

Let’s understand and take ownership of how powerful we are by reading the following out loud.

“I am the center of the Universe and when I think a thought, law of attraction responds to my thought, and when I practice this thought until it is dominant, (that is what a belief is), then all around me is my practiced thought”.

As otherwise statedthe mystery of the universe is that it is constantly rearranging itself to accommodate your own personal view of it. What you want to see (intend), is what the universe is EAGER to show you.

Now I know you know where I am going with this.the ultimate truth. As we look to see how Anger has shown up for us we then can change our view. And when your view changes the universe changes in order to remain consistent with your particular view at that time.

So let’s call in a little assistanceI know my higher purpose is being fulfilled now, in this moment.
I trust in something greater than myself to show me the next step. I look within, where I am safe, loved, and protected. I trust that my highest good and greatest joy are unfolding now. In this space I am willing to let go of that which is no longer serving me. Todayin this momentHow can I respond in a different way?

Yes we are willing to change, and we are open to deeply listen to Anger’s cry for safety.

We seem to have a few walls up let see what is we are truly seeking now. Anger seeks safety?
Are we not save now? Listen within. Are you repressing, suppressing, projecting? Are you Feeling some guilt or shame about this dark side, this Angry side wanting to express itself? What are these walls really protecting you from?
Your own inner frightened child? Your true Spirit?
Gee.how can we manage this Angry spirit? How have you managed in the past to quiet and pacify this spirit?
Waityou know I was kidding. The past is over!! Let’s take a look now, in this moment to creatively give this spirit a voice, this abandoned child. This child has every right to feel Angry!
Anger is such a healthy response to a child who is suppressed, invalidated, and isolated. Because we have established a safe place here, a safe place, let’s go ahead for a minute and write down what this child wants to share with you.
Now in this moment something new is happening in your life. It is perfectly O.K. to be Angry.
As adults we tend to find ways to invalidate these very feelings. As you learn to quiet your mind and look within more often, you will see a brand new you. One that draws unconditional love to your front door.
You see it is a simple process that we made so complex. If you are feeling Angry, take a few minutes and show up for this frightened child/Spirit. Listen do not judge and connect with something greater than you! A connection with Source, opens to a opportunity to share and participate with this moment.

We are now, each time we go within, are setting new nuero pathways in place. So each time it gets a little easier. Remember there are no accidents in life. You are reading this to expand your consciousness. I know at first it sounds a little to easy. Open yourself up each day a little bit at a time and soon you will be experiencing new unlimited relationships with others. True empowerment!

Thanks for being coach able.

Philip J. McKeon

Philip McKeon spent 13 years in the medical manufacturing field. He has attained great success in the material world. After following endless ventures of cerebral entertainment, (avoidance), he was awakened by a near-death experience in Hawaii.
He is following his highest aspect to help others to get in touch with something greater then one can imagine for themselves. But first we must get in touch with our feelings. Feeling is the energy that is attracting events into your life. Philip has a playful approach to this inner connection.
A true pioneer of perception

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Reacting Vs. Responding

Writen by Linda Salazar

There’s been a common theme lately in my coaching practice with my clients and I thought it would be worthwhile to share this with you. We’ve been having a great deal of discussion about reacting to a situation as opposed to responding.

Can you recall a time when you might have reacted to something or someone and when the incident was all over feelings were hurt and you told yourself you wished you had handled it differently? If you’ve got kids, a life partner, parents, friends, a boss, employees, dog, cat or bird, I’d put money on the fact that you said yes. Don’t despair; reacting to all the challenges life throws at you is as normal as needing to breathe.

The good news is you can turn your unnecessary reactions into responses, if you choose to do so. But before I go any further, let me clear up the difference between an unnecessary reaction and a reaction worth having.

When you or a loved one is in harms way, you may automatically react to protect yourself or them and that’s a reaction worth having. When you’re driving in your car and a dog suddenly runs out in front of you, you react by slamming on your breaks so as not to hit the dog. When you react out of pure joy and love with excitement you are in the moment letting your authentic self shine through, having no regrets later as to how you behaved. Okay, maybe you’ll feel a little embarrassed if you really whooped it up, but let’s be honest here, there’s still a smile on your face when you think back about the reaction and you’d probably do it all over again.

With that said let’s focus on the reacting vs. responding to the people in your lives that matter to you the most. Reactions to situations that anger you or make you uncomfortable are quite spontaneous, without much thought and you can have an attachment to the outcome. You can find yourself reacting on assumptions and from your point of view only. Sometimes you may react before the other person has even finished their sentence.

As a matter of fact, I did this the other day with my son, and when I was done with my little lecture he said, “Mom! Here’s what I was going to say.” When he finished I realized my reaction was way off base. A simple response to his question would have been all that was necessary, my blood pressure would have been kept down a few notches and the conversation would have been finished a lot sooner.

It’s because of reactions like this, that a situation can get out of hand and become much more than it was ever intended to be. And, when you react before you think, you can say things to the other person you didn’t mean to say and not make a whole lot of sense in the process. Feelings are hurt and the whole thing’s a mess until hours or days go by and you’ve finally cleared it up. Or, things never really get cleared up and it festers inside you until the next incident creating yet another reaction. I call this a reaction of chain reactions.

Responding is the opposite of reacting. When you’re willing to suspend judgment for a moment and just listen, you can put yourself in a response mode. Responding is a conscious act and you’re choosing to be fully present to what’s happening. You’re not immediately concerned about the outcome. You’re willing to hear what’s being said, so when the other person is finished you can respond from a place of wanting to find a resolution and the other person feels like they were understood.

There is no question that responding takes more effort. And I dare say that most of us walk around reacting instead of responding, simply because it’s easier. Reacting takes less immediate effort on our brain’s part.

Responding forces us to grow which can be scary. However, as we grow, we become more attractive to the people around us. When we become more attractive to the people around us our lives improve ten-fold in every way.

So the next time you have the opportunity to choose between reacting vs. responding take a minute and decide what would be best for that particular situation.

If suddenly you find yourself reacting when you wanted to respond it’s not to late to put on the breaks and start over. It’s okay to say, “Wait, I want to back up here. I’m reacting and I really want to respond to what you said.” Or, “I’m sorry, I interrupted you, please finish, and then I’ll respond to what I’ve heard.” As a matter of fact, the other person will be grateful for your openness.

Notice how often you react instead of respond. What kinds of things are you reactive to?

Acknowledge yourself when you respond vs. react even if you started with a reaction. It’s important to take credit where credit is due. That acknowledgement helps you create your new desired habit quicker. Remember, give yourself a break when working on something new for yourself. It takes time and there’s always a period of two steps back and one step forward. Eventually the steps all go in the same direction. That’s forward, of course!

Copyright 2005, Linda Salazar all rights reserved. This article may be reproduced in its entirety as long as all credits are included.

Linda Salazar
Certified Personal Life Coach, Author, Speaker
310-375-4800
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