Anger-How To Change Your Behavior Without Trying To Change Your Thinking

Writen by Pradeep Chadha

Human mind is given the credit for being a thinking mind. But our behaviour is not determined by our thinking. Our behaviour is determined by our emotional and instinctual drives. That makes us as good as animals. And that is what we all are. We are all ‘thinking animals’. If you disagree with this statement, then you simply need to look at the history of humankind and without going far, read daily newspapers.

When people cheat others, kill others, maim others, they are not thinking. They are driven by their animal drives to do what they do. So what is at the back of human behaviour? It is the emotional drives that make a person lose control over their behaviour.

Anger and fear are two commonly powerful emotions that determine an individual’s behaviour. How many times have you acted out in anger and later regretted? How many times have you felt fearful for no reason ?

A problem becomes worse when you dwell on it. The emotional distress increases as a result. If you are feeling angry about a particular topic or incident, dwelling on it will make the emotions stronger. If you go and meet the person involved in the incident, in an angry state, your behaviour will be aggressive.

On the other hand a surprising thing happens when you remember the event repeatedly in your mind from start to finish. The emotional distress reduces after a temporary increase. This is a simple secret that is not well known. I have used this method to help my clients change their behaviour. So when the feelings change, you approach the issue differently.

So changing your feelings does change your behaviour.

Pradeep K Chadha is a psychiatrist who specialises in helping patients with meditation and imagery using little or no medication. He is the author of The Stress Barrier-Nature’s Way To Overcoming Stress published by Blackhall Publishing, Dublin. He is based in Dublin, Ireland.His website address is :http://www.drpkchadha.com

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Does a Loved One Need Anger Management Counseling?

Writen by Steve Hill

Have you ever blown your stack by over-responding to a situation? Maybe it would be easier to ask if you know someone who hasn’t. Virtually everyone has said something in anger that they wish they could take back. After nasty words are spoken or mean actions are taken, they can have a hurtful or escalating effect on others, and it is too late to un-do their impact. That is why anger management counseling can be beneficial for those who have trouble controlling angry responses to irritating situations. There is no shame attached to seeking anger management counseling; in fact, true shame comes from the failure to admit there is a problem and trying to take remedial action.

Anger management counseling can be sought for many reasons. In some cases, a doctor, spouse, or supervisor may recommend it. In other cases, a person may be able to contain physical and verbal expressions of anger, but realize that emotionally, his or her rage surpasses what one should expect in a given situation. At the point of this recognition, a wise person will consider anger management classes, training, or counsel to keep their emotions under check and to manage responses in a healthy way.

What Does Anger Management Counseling Involve?

Any type of personal counseling proceeds effectively when the client admits there is a problem or that others believe he or she has a problem. In this case, anger management counseling will focus on exploring the roots of unresolved anger, discovering triggers of current or unexplained anger, and looking at ways to try and bring anger under reasonable control. Working with a trained and possibly licensed therapist, a client will answer many questions about personal history, current conditions, and future expectations. He may even take one or more psychology tests that could provide insight to the patient’s mindset.

If anger management counseling warrants, a client may be referred to a doctor for a medical work-up that could check the person’s hormonal levels, blood levels, and overall condition to see if health problems play a role. Perhaps the prescription of a mood elevator, an anti-anxiety or bi-polar medication, or another type of medicine will have a positive effect on helping someone manage anger difficulties.

Anger management counseling also may involve the recommendation of self-help techniques that someone can practice at home or on the job. These might include keeping a journal and writing about negative feelings, getting a pet to help reduce irritation and promote a serene home environment, learning to adjust expectations, and being honest about disappointment, hurt, or irritation. Even adopting an exercise routine can help to balance bodily functions and contribute to a greater sense of well being.

Since each therapist uses different techniques, your sessions may be very different from those experienced by other clients. Your counselor may recommend group therapy, for instance, or family therapy if relatives are impacted by the situation. As you explore various techniques of anger management counseling, you will soon get a feel for what works and what doesn’t. For more information before, during, or after your counseling sessions, visit online websites like anger-management-information.com (site is not complete yet). Then you can go to your counseling sessions armed with information or questions that will positively impact your therapy.

Steve Hill discusses anger management counseling. Learn how to live without anger in your life starting today. Read more informative anger management articles and information at:
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Hurricanes and Anger Management

Writen by Lance Winslow

There are many psychological emotions, which go through the minds of humans who have lost everything. During the 2005 Atlantic tropical hurricane season we saw entire cities in regions along our coastline on the Gulf Coast, which were completely devastated and destroyed.

Houses were leveled like a nuclear bomb went off, but it was the storm surge, which knocked down all those houses. When the people returned there was nothing left of the area and they had lost literally everything. Those that stayed even lost their lives.

Of course when this happens there is depression, anxiety and stress. Then there is anger and for some of this is an anger of god or Mother Nature. When someone loses everything and they have nothing to live for and often they are angry at the world and they take it out on their loved ones and those who are there to help.

They are anger often turns towards the authorities, first responders, volunteers and even the government. How could they let something like this happen? Actually they had nothing to do with it did they? Of course not, but the anger that is generated is usually pointed toward something or somebody and this is where anger management can help.

Psychologists and those who wish to help the Gulf Coast residents return to a normal state of mental health have volunteered to work with the victims of the catastrophic hurricanes which hit during the 2005 record-breaking Atlantic tropical hurricane season. Please consider this in 2006, as it might happen again.

Lance Winslow

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